For a lot of brides, wedding planning becomes a full contact competitive sport. The pins, the swatches, the vendors, the tastings, it can feel like the Iron Man Triathlon (or so we imagine, because really that sounds crazy). In the race to the perfect wedding, one key team member tends to get left in the starting gate… the groom.
The cold, hard truth of the matter is that most grooms haven’t imagined five or six versions of “their perfect day” since they were twelve, so sometimes, it seems like grooms lack a bit of “team spirit”. We have yet to see a groom go gaga over table linens.
But, hey, you wouldn’t even be having a wedding if he didn’t propose, so cut the guy some slack, and get him involved in the parts of the wedding that are fun and meaningful to him!
1. Guys like food! Let him help with the food and drinks, and menu tastings make a great substitute date with the bonus of getting another TO DO checked off your wedding planning list. Ditto the Groom’s cake. Even if you’re trying to surprise him, see if you can get a tasting together or drop into your bakery and pick up some cupcakes, and then you can book the details of the cake later when he’s not around.
2. Let him pick what he wears. Not every guy has James Bond’s fondness for formal wear.
3. Tag team the registry. Don’t just register for dishes and towels. Have him register for things he wants too, like a grill set, tools, or a TV. After all, the gifts are supposed to be for both of you.
4. Music- Most groom’s we talk to really only care about three things. What they wear, what they eat, and what they play at the reception. Go visit bands together (again, great faux date night activity). Pick your wedding song together. Don’t make him dance a Rhumba if he doesn’t have the hips for it.
5. Last, but not least, let him decide things pertaining to his friends and family. If it’s going to hurt Aunt Mabel’s feelings, or your groom really, really, really doesn’t want his college friends seated with your college friends at the “singles tables”. Set up a frat boy table, and let your planner know that’s where trouble is bound to start.
Weddings are supposed to be a celebration of your newfound couplehood . Make sure your wedding planning has some “couple” team spirit!